October 9 2023
Monday, October 9, 2023
Nathasha Wagner once said, "I had to learn to have a relationship with someone who wasn’t there anymore." That can feel like an impossible feat, but grief shows us how. When listening to grief, mourners create these relationships in countless ways. They write letters to deceased loved ones. Finish projects in their honor or create things in their memory. Mourners wear items of their loved ones’ clothing or donate to their favorite organizations. They consider how their loved ones solved dilemmas and try to proceed in a similar manner. Like Nathasha, mourners recognize that their loved ones are gone, but very near.
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January 29 2024
We’ll close this month’s posts with a poem by Jocelyn Soriano that speaks to how we run on empty – because we don’t let go of love!
We do not really let go of love;
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January 15 2024
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January 1 2024
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December 25 2023
For those of you celebrating today, we wish you a meaningful Christmas. We’ll close this month’s posts with a wish for the candles you might light during this holiday season.
Candles of joy, despi...
December 18 2023
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December 11 2023
I wasn’t always comfortable with the concept of, “Dare! Silence.” I grew up in a house with five kids and two parents, so silence was not something that happened often. When I began to practice a s...
December 4 2023
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November 27 2023
To close this month, please read Anne Hillman’s poem, “We Look With Uncertainty” as you notice “something new is being born in” you while making new treasured memories.
We look with uncertainty
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